Different men have different problems. Some men have erectile dysfunction, while others have trouble getting rid of their frequent public erections. Each of us has had or will have to face various problems; this is human nature – part of life. All we have to do is embrace them, work with them, and solve them one at a time.
The most common sexual problem I have come across is premature ejaculation. Yes, this is a common and natural phenomenon. I have some friends who went to therapists just so they could get treatment for this problem, while others have just kept it to themselves as their private secret. Well, it is natural that some men do not come out openly and say that they suffer from premature ejaculation. But I must tell you; you shouldn’t be ashamed of this. Most men experience this problem at one time or another, and you won’t be able to solve it if you don’t seek help.
You are taking the very important first step in solving this problem right now, by searching for information. And you’re in luck. This is not some kind of contagious, life-threatening disease that has a billion-dollar cure. The solution is simple. You just need to practice a few ways to prevent it from happening. Sounds simple, right? Well, actually it is. But simple doesn’t necessarily mean easy. You need to work hard to make it work; you need to put a lot of effort and time to be able to control your ejaculation.
First of all, you need to stimulate yourself. This may not be difficult for some guys, who already do it often: jerk off! But don’t get too excited, I must say. We’re not talking about your typical porn-based masturbation session. Instead, while you masturbate, you should pay special attention to all the sensations that are happening in your body. Notice how your arousal begins and how it spreads throughout your body. You may not notice these little details the first time, but if you practice and practice and pay attention, you will definitely catch on. The point is to become familiar with your body’s response to arousal and the buildup of ejaculate. Awareness is the first step. When you are aware of something, you can begin to control it. Before that awareness exists, there is no possibility of any kind of control.
For the purposes of this article, the second thing you should do is practice starting and stopping stimulation. You can start to stimulate yourself, feel yourself getting a little more turned on, and then stop. Stop for about 5 seconds, let the arousal subside slightly, and then start the stimulation again.
The goal of this exercise is to allow your arousal to settle to a level where you are not going to ejaculate anytime soon, but where you still have enough arousal to have a strong erection. This is the arousal zone where you can master your ejaculation and last as long as you want.
To start with, do the start and stop technique about 4-5 times before you ejaculate. Each cycle, let your arousal build a little more, until after 4-5 times, you are about to ejaculate. Then watch for that ‘point of no return’ where you know you’re going to ejaculate, no matter what. Notice this.
The feeling that you have right before you ejaculate, you need to stop your stimulation right then and there. This is not easy, but you will notice it once you start looking for it. Familiarize yourself with this area. Once you know this experience thoroughly, you can start using techniques to have orgasms without ejaculating. Yes, that is correct. They are two different events! And as a result, you can prevent premature ejaculation and continue having sex for as long as you want.
These techniques may seem simple (they are), but they do take work for you to see dramatic results. But you can do it! You need to work hard, but with a lot of practice, you can achieve your goals.
