It’s really not surprising that you feel a bit fragile, is it? Your body just spent nine months carrying and nurturing a tiny human being followed by an ordeal to bring him into the world. Your hormones are all over the place, you are probably exhausted and have been woken up all the time, no wonder you feel crying.
It will pass, but if you feel like it’s a problem or that the baby blues continue, your doctor or health visitor will help. Don’t suffer alone if you continue, need help, or it could ruin your relationship with your husband or prevent you from bonding with your baby.
Suddenly, you can’t go to the store to buy any more milk or a forgotten birthday card. A great lifestyle change has occurred. You have to plan your trips around naps and feeding times. You will adjust to your new way of life and enjoy meeting and loving this vulnerable little newcomer, but it will take time to develop a routine. Accept this and you will learn to love your new life and the amazing joys of parenthood.
In the meantime, be grateful for any help from your husband or family while you’re feeling a bit fragile. You may also miss your coworkers, try not to isolate yourself too much, stay in touch with your colleagues, I’m sure they would love to see your baby. Also join mother and baby support groups as you will find it helpful to talk with other mothers; local groups are easy to find online.
Your partner may also be feeling the strain of the new way of life, but he still has to go to work, despite the lack of sleep. You may also feel isolated, a little left out, and unsure how you can help. It will take both of them a little time to adjust. Be kind and supportive of each other and your relationship will grow stronger. Try to see the fun side of the little setbacks and relax.
Now is the time to pamper yourself a bit and take advantage of offers of help. Explain what would help you the most. It could be doing some shopping, washing the kitchen floor, or a few hours to catch up with sleep while your mother, sister, or a trusted friend takes care of your baby. Don’t expect too much of yourself or be hard on yourself. Feeling tired and overwhelmed will pass, let others help you
