Marriage can be a hardship for some couples where control of the relationship is kept by one person.
With authoritarian husbands, the root cause of this behavior is often due to their feelings of jealousy and insecurity.
In the husband’s reasoning, behaving in a pushy way maintains control of his partner:
– Marriage exists based on your values and opinions.
– Has control over all decisions and all power.
– Criticizing your partner gives you a false sense of superiority, of control.
For the recipient of this type of authoritarian behavior, it can create a sense of being trapped in their circumstances, feeling intimidated, or feeling suffocated. If you are married to an overbearing husband who begins to isolate you from your friends and family, you may feel even more trapped and at the mercy of her jealousy and insecurity.
How can you fix things?
If your husband begins to isolate you from friends and family, suggesting marital counseling may be an option. If you do approach this option, be very careful to be gentle when introducing the topic into the conversation to avoid an explosive, angry outburst from him in response. To get started, talk to your pastor or reverend at Church.
Allow your partner to assess your behavior. You may be acting bossy due to loneliness or low self-esteem. Some men were raised by overbearing mothers and believe that this is how they should behave in a relationship. There are many ways you can improve his self-esteem, and you can contribute to this by giving him more attention and encouraging him to try new things. Instead, take some time to rebuild the romance in your lives.
First of all, listen more than you talk. In this way, her husband feels ‘heard’ and valued, which adds to her feelings of self-worth.
Then remember to do the things your husband likes. If she likes it when you buy her gifts, keep doing it. If she likes you when you go to see a game, she continues to accompany him. This shows that you pay attention to her wants and needs.
Restore the relationship in a fun-filled environment. Often relationships can become too serious. Focus on enjoying each other’s company again. Go the extra mile with your hair and clothing style so that he remembers how excited you were when you first met. Rekindle the romance between you and watch your husband free himself from the need to control everything you do. He may take a long time, but if he starts slowly and gradually works up to this point, the hard work will pay off.
When it comes to relationships, breaking up due to an overbearing husband is difficult because you have invested so much emotionally in the other person. Given time to work on the issues that underlie authoritarian behavior, there is a realistic chance of creating the kind of happy and successful partnership that royal marriages are built on.
