“I had sex with him too soon.” If you say that now, you probably wish you had the ability to turn back the hands of time. Sleeping with a man too early in the relationship can be momentous or disastrous. You can usually tell in a matter of days which path he’s going to take. If he calls you and wants to see you again, you know that intimacy brought the two of you closer together. If it seems to disappear into thin air right after the two of you were together, then you know it was a mistake. Understanding why men react this way is crucial to fixing the problem and getting the relationship back on track.
Although intimacy is a crucial and enjoyable part of any romantic relationship, it can also make or break it. The problem with sleeping with a man too soon after meeting is that he will make unflattering assumptions about you. It doesn’t matter how much he wanted intimacy and how desperately he chased you for it. Once you sleep with him, all that desire will be quenched and more focused on the fact that you opened up so soon.
Men tend to be quite territorial and if they feel like you’re willing to make love to all of your dates so early in the relationship, that’s a huge turn-off for them. Just as women want to feel special when they start dating a new guy, he wants to feel the same way about her.
So is there a way to go back and fix a bug like this? There absolutely is. If you now feel like you slept with him too soon and he’s gone off your radar, you need to act fast. Although you may feel compelled to call him and try to explain his behavior, don’t. If he does, he’s just giving you a big spotlight. That will only serve to remind him of the fact that you were willing to have sex without actually knowing him.
You need to move the focus of the relationship from one of sex to one of mutual friendship. You have to take intimacy out of the equation for now. For now, you should put aside any romantic feelings or desires you have for him. If you sleep with him again now, you will only prove his point that sex is your main focus.
Call him and invite him over for a casual lunch or dinner. Treat him like a friend and make sure that at the end of the date you don’t end up in his bed. Make a lot of effort to engage him in interesting conversation so he can begin to see you as multi-faceted. You need that to happen if you hope to have the opportunity to have a well-developed and balanced relationship with him.
Reintroduce intimacy once you feel things are going better for jogging. Once he sees that you’re more than someone who enjoys making love, he’ll be much more open to a relationship with you.
