We have all grown up thinking that dating is normal and something that people do to meet others and have a chance to get married. Today’s Christian culture encourages dating, but it wasn’t always that way. “Dating” is unbiblical, and in fact the Scriptures clearly reveal the opposite of the attitude of dating when meeting people for relationships and a possible marriage. Let’s take a look at why dating is not for the sincere Christian.
1) Dating leads to sex but not commitment
Most of the time, dating leads to sex and eventually heartbreak. Dating hurts young people because it is a false sense of hope that almost always leads to emotional distress and physical impurity. With quotes the risk to have sex with a person who Really I do not know is essential. I say risk because sex means nothing without love and commitment. Think about it. For the sincere Christian, dating should be out of the question, don’t you think?
2) The courtship defrauds (fornication) the body of the other
For the Christian, every time he has sex with a new person, he is being disappointed and you are also disappointing the other person. God’s desire for sincere Christians is not to have sexual relations (fornication) before marriage. It is a sin just like adultery is a sin. Scripture says plain and simple that young Christians are not to disappoint each other sexually or emotionally, they are to be different from Gentiles who do not know God.
1 Thessalonians 4: 3-7 “For this is the will of God, the sanctification of you (set aside), that you refrain from fornicating. May each of you know how to possess your vessel (body) in sanctification and honor. Not in desires of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God. Let no one go further (awaken lust in another) and defraud his brother in any matter: because the Lord is the avenger of such, as we also warned you and testified “.
3) Dating confuses “feelings of attraction and desire” with love
How often have you wanted someone so much that you thought you were “in love” with them? Were you so attached to them emotionally with your feelings that you thought they were “the one” for you? This happens all the time with Christian people. They get married and think they will live happily ever after. But wait! What happens when the feelings of desire and lust disappear, then what? I’ll tell you what. Couples are unhappy in their marriage and commit infidelities of all kinds. Their entire marriage was based on FEELINGS more than LOVE. This is not God’s will for the sincere Christian.
4) Dating skips the friendship / respect stage of a relationship
The knight in shining armor runs through the door. The beautiful princess is the most impressive beauty you have ever seen. What happens next based on these ga-ga feelings? Couples surrender their hearts, minds, souls, and bodies based on sexual feelings. They defraud each other by stealing emotions and bodies that do not belong to them.
Sex means nothing without love and commitment. How well do couples really know the person they are intimate with? God’s plan for single Christians is to love one another as brothers and sisters in the Lord and build friendships based on respect, not sex. Your body and mind belong to God. Sex is reserved for the marriage bed. The sexual, intimate and emotional bond of two people in the Lord is “one flesh” of marriage.
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Don’t you know? your body is the temple of the Holy SpiritWho is in you, whom have you received from God? You are not yours; you were bought with a price (the death of Christ). Therefore honor God with your body “(1 Corinthians 618).
5) Dating isolates you from others
Once the emotional bond begins, neither party cares about anyone else. Throughout the day when they are apart they just want to be together and are on cloud nine in thoughts and imaginations of what the other is doing. When it comes to the people who really matter in your life, such as parents, relatives, and real friends, everyone is on hold while the couple anxiously awaits when they will meet again sexually and emotionally.
6) Dating distracts people from what really matters
Dating, due to its sexual and emotional intentions, distracts Christians from what it is Really important to them. That is, God and preparing for his future in the Lord. They are so focused on mutual events that nothing else matters to them, not even staying pure for God and marriage. It is God’s will that young Christians who are sincere in the Lord put their feelings on hold and not be pressured into noncommittal emotional relationships.
7) Dates deceive each other by seeing true character
This is exactly what happened to the biblical Samson. He couldn’t see through his own passionate lust to see that Delilah was only using him. In the end, his lustful desires cost him his life. Delilah’s true character was that of being a deceptive woman who only cared about herself. You can read the full story here: Judges 16: 4-31
“Do not covet her beauty in your heart, nor let her captivate you with her eyes, because the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress takes advantage of your own life” Proverbs 6:25
It works the other way around. Young Christian women can also be deceived by men who claim to be believers in Jesus Christ. Don’t let your passions and desires fool you and don’t see someone’s true character. Be patient and ask God to help you recognize someone’s true character. In time and with time, the fruit of the Spirit will become apparent. Be patient with your emotions and wait on God!
8) Dating Prepare Christians for Divorce
I have no idea why society has the idea that dating prepares people for marriage. But somehow throughout the ages, people believe that “dating” is the way you get to know someone, and in some cases, premarital sex is advocated to see if couples are compatible that way. This is ridiculous! God made them male and female, didn’t He?
I will tell you what has been revealed to me through the Scriptures. Dating prepares people to trust their emotions. When passions and desires are quenched, couples divorce and find a new partner.
“They told you,” In the end times (today’s culture) there will be scoffers who will follow their own ungodly desires. “These are the men who divide them, who follow simple natural instincts and do not have the Spirit.
9) Dating alienates Christians from what is right and pure in the Lord
Do you understand now why God prohibits fornication? When our emotions get so caught up with worldly pleasures like dating, God is no longer important to us and we begin to rebel and mock Him and His commandments for our lives. God wants young people to place it as the most important aspect of their life so that they can base their life actions on that relationship.
“Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord with a pure heart” (2 Timothy 2:22).
